Comments on: SHAME

By: kim bowen

kim bowen — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 17:22:57 +0000

I have lived with shame, depression and anxiety my entire life. I am blogging my recovery and I’m being as honest and open as I know how to be. I’ve learned a lot recently about shame and how to fight it. Please check out my blog and know that this is hope and no one has to hide if they have the right tools for coping. You are already taking a huge step by blogging honestly. That may leave you vulnerable…but that is when and where the healing begins. Let me know if you stop by.
kim

By: Oodles

Oodles — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 15:27:29 +0000

Being flat-out honest is the best way of being healthy. It’s the only way to get there. I’m proud of you!

By: annie

annie — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 16:54:59 +0000

you are so courageous to share your story. I too live in an isolated world created by mind. You see I am obese which really means unworthy. Your story has given me a companion if only for a moment. I needed to read your blog today, you are helping others just by being honest and real.

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 13:48:02 +0000

Thank you for your honesty in this post. I am a fairly social person, but I have a real empathy for what you are going through. I also agree with Jane above…all you can do is the best you can do. You certainly tried.

Best of luck and I’ll be thinking good thoughts for you!

By: Thursday

Thursday — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 08:09:28 +0000

Well done on writing such an honest post. I agree with Karen - I forget that you struggle with depression and panic attacks - what comes across to me is what a brilliant writer you are and I cannot imagine that you are any less engaging in person.

By: Chris

Chris — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 16:18:13 +0000

shame sucks. thanks for writing about yours so honestly.

By: Jane

Jane — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 15:03:40 +0000

There’s no shame in doing the best you can. It’s clear that you would go to these things if you could. You couldn’t this time, but at least you tried and you sent your kids. You’ll have another chance and maybe next time you’ll take a baby step. Maybe you won’t. None of this has anything to do with your worth as a person.

I do wonder, however, why your doctor(s) aren’t addressing your phobias more actively. I don’t see anyone working with you to shape behavior. Are you reluctant to do that?

By: cynthea

cynthea — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 01:12:55 +0000

Yeah, me too. Not so severe, but me too.

By: Belle

Belle — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 01:04:58 +0000

I’ve done the hiding thing a few times myself so I understand. I’ve seen many a picture of me at a family gathering with that vacant look in my eyes. Even though I was there, I really wasn’t.

Thank you for your honest writing, as always.

By: Karen

Karen — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 23:21:50 +0000

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way and that you’ve missed out on things that you wish you were a part of. I’m sure that makes you feel sad.

I have to tell you that when I read your blog, the last thing I think about is that you struggle with depression and panic attacks. It’s not until you mention it that I even remember because when I read your blog, what I see is one of the most articulate and funny and inspiring writers I’ve had the pleasure of stumbling upon in all my time reading on the internet.

So if you’re worrying what others are thinking, worry no more. We think you’re great!