Comments on: It’s Too Late For Prevention But I Don’t Think It’s Too Late For The Cure http://www.livedtotell.com/2008/06/16/its-too-late-for-prevention-but-i-dont-think-its-too-late-for-the-cure/ 35 year old mother of two trying to live with panic disorder and depression without losing her sense of humor. Thu, 08 Jan 2009 22:45:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.2 By: Tammy http://www.livedtotell.com/2008/06/16/its-too-late-for-prevention-but-i-dont-think-its-too-late-for-the-cure/#comment-6647 Tammy Sat, 21 Jun 2008 01:54:31 +0000 http://www.livedtotell.com/2008/06/16/its-too-late-for-prevention-but-i-dont-think-its-too-late-for-the-cure/#comment-6647 Thanks Cazza, My Mom is Australian as well, and from what I have heard back from her she is having a great visit. No matter how many years she lives in the States, Australia is always going home to her. Thank you for the kind words. They honestly surprise me, but I do appreciate it. If I've helped one person it has all been worth it to me. Hi Belle, I don't blame you for still wishing hell on your x. I tend to want to exact my revenge on people myself. I'm horrible like that. I don't think I can do really short hair but I will get a trim soon and maybe freshen my color. Thanks Cazza,
My Mom is Australian as well, and from what I have heard back from her she is having a great visit. No matter how many years she lives in the States, Australia is always going home to her.
Thank you for the kind words. They honestly surprise me, but I do appreciate it. If I’ve helped one person it has all been worth it to me.

Hi Belle, I don’t blame you for still wishing hell on your x. I tend to want to exact my revenge on people myself. I’m horrible like that.

I don’t think I can do really short hair but I will get a trim soon and maybe freshen my color.

]]> By: Belle http://www.livedtotell.com/2008/06/16/its-too-late-for-prevention-but-i-dont-think-its-too-late-for-the-cure/#comment-6645 Belle Wed, 18 Jun 2008 12:39:35 +0000 http://www.livedtotell.com/2008/06/16/its-too-late-for-prevention-but-i-dont-think-its-too-late-for-the-cure/#comment-6645 Oh, the medic in a war zone. Good god how does one ever get over that? I had a serious relationship back in the day with a fella straight out of Viet Nam and his story (he only told me one) was horrific. And, yes, he was a mess for years and years. I hope he was able to lose the demons eventually. On Father's Day, we went to the military cem to put flowers on my hubby's step-dad's grave. The BioDad? Nope, he wouldn't do it. I didn't push it. And, 37 years later, I still cannot have someone put their hands on my neck without immediately moving away. You are so right - some things just don't ever go away and I have no shame/guilt that I wish the ex his day in hell. Cut your hair! You will feel so refreshed! I can't do the short hair thing but, at age 58, I still have shoulder-length hair. No gma permed hair for me quite yet! :) Oh, the medic in a war zone. Good god how does one ever get over that? I had a serious relationship back in the day with a fella straight out of Viet Nam and his story (he only told me one) was horrific. And, yes, he was a mess for years and years. I hope he was able to lose the demons eventually.

On Father’s Day, we went to the military cem to put flowers on my hubby’s step-dad’s grave. The BioDad? Nope, he wouldn’t do it. I didn’t push it.

And, 37 years later, I still cannot have someone put their hands on my neck without immediately moving away. You are so right - some things just don’t ever go away and I have no shame/guilt that I wish the ex his day in hell.

Cut your hair! You will feel so refreshed! I can’t do the short hair thing but, at age 58, I still have shoulder-length hair. No gma permed hair for me quite yet! :)

]]> By: Cazza http://www.livedtotell.com/2008/06/16/its-too-late-for-prevention-but-i-dont-think-its-too-late-for-the-cure/#comment-6644 Cazza Wed, 18 Jun 2008 09:04:45 +0000 http://www.livedtotell.com/2008/06/16/its-too-late-for-prevention-but-i-dont-think-its-too-late-for-the-cure/#comment-6644 How could you be surprised at positive comments? You are one of the most insightful, entertaining and well written bloggers I read. And your writing has helped me fight my own demons many times. I hope your mum is enjoying herself in my gorgeous country. How could you be surprised at positive comments? You are one of the most insightful, entertaining and well written bloggers I read. And your writing has helped me fight my own demons many times.

I hope your mum is enjoying herself in my gorgeous country.

]]> By: Tammy http://www.livedtotell.com/2008/06/16/its-too-late-for-prevention-but-i-dont-think-its-too-late-for-the-cure/#comment-6643 Tammy Wed, 18 Jun 2008 02:42:46 +0000 http://www.livedtotell.com/2008/06/16/its-too-late-for-prevention-but-i-dont-think-its-too-late-for-the-cure/#comment-6643 I'm so sorry Jean that you can relate. I know what you mean about not being able to control it. With as much therapy as I've had, as many years as I've been given, it doesn't go away. The veterans I mentioned are recent, yes. It is heartbreaking. I happen to feel that they should be given free therapy, free job assistance and training,free help when they painfully skate to the edge of homelessness, alcoholism and despair, but they seem forgotten now that they have done their time. Your brother, I am so sorry to hear that. I will keep him in my thoughts... Thursday, I won't ask about your Dad. I can't say I'd be speaking to mine if he was still here. I didn't even think of semipermanent hair color. I'll have to check it out, as I couldn't do as much damage with one of those. I like the look of sharp short cuts but I am horrible about going for trims. I actually had my son trim the split bits off the other day and he did a very nice job, especially considering the fact that he's never given a haircut in his life. My hair is naturally wavy, about six inches past my shoulders with a lovely array of blond highlights and several inches of new growth in my natural color which is dark blond, or light brown, whatever. It's mostly all the same length except for some long layers I had cut into last time I was at the stylist and she asked if she could and I said sure, why not? I wear my hair in a bun for work and I often pull it up off my face so I can't imagine not being able to do that. We are required to wear baseball caps as well, which I hate. I'd actually prefer a hairnet. I did feel good about Chefhisname calling me. It's always nice to be appreciated. He seemed disappointed that I's already found work but it's not like sitting around waiting for him was an option. I’m so sorry Jean that you can relate. I know what you mean about not being able to control it. With as much therapy as I’ve had, as many years as I’ve been given, it doesn’t go away.
The veterans I mentioned are recent, yes. It is heartbreaking. I happen to feel that they should be given free therapy, free job assistance and training,free help when they painfully skate to the edge of homelessness, alcoholism and despair, but they seem forgotten now that they have done their time.
Your brother, I am so sorry to hear that. I will keep him in my thoughts…

Thursday, I won’t ask about your Dad. I can’t say I’d be speaking to mine if he was still here.
I didn’t even think of semipermanent hair color. I’ll have to check it out, as I couldn’t do as much damage with one of those. I like the look of sharp short cuts but I am horrible about going for trims. I actually had my son trim the split bits off the other day and he did a very nice job, especially considering the fact that he’s never given a haircut in his life. My hair is naturally wavy, about six inches past my shoulders with a lovely array of blond highlights and several inches of new growth in my natural color which is dark blond, or light brown, whatever. It’s mostly all the same length except for some long layers I had cut into last time I was at the stylist and she asked if she could and I said sure, why not? I wear my hair in a bun for work and I often pull it up off my face so I can’t imagine not being able to do that. We are required to wear baseball caps as well, which I hate. I’d actually prefer a hairnet.

I did feel good about Chefhisname calling me. It’s always nice to be appreciated. He seemed disappointed that I’s already found work but it’s not like sitting around waiting for him was an option.

]]> By: Thursday http://www.livedtotell.com/2008/06/16/its-too-late-for-prevention-but-i-dont-think-its-too-late-for-the-cure/#comment-6642 Thursday Tue, 17 Jun 2008 19:55:21 +0000 http://www.livedtotell.com/2008/06/16/its-too-late-for-prevention-but-i-dont-think-its-too-late-for-the-cure/#comment-6642 I forgot - yay for you over Chefhisname.It seemed apparent at the time that he was really impressed by you but good to have that confirmation. I forgot - yay for you over Chefhisname.It seemed apparent at the time that he was really impressed by you but good to have that confirmation.

]]> By: Thursday http://www.livedtotell.com/2008/06/16/its-too-late-for-prevention-but-i-dont-think-its-too-late-for-the-cure/#comment-6641 Thursday Tue, 17 Jun 2008 19:53:41 +0000 http://www.livedtotell.com/2008/06/16/its-too-late-for-prevention-but-i-dont-think-its-too-late-for-the-cure/#comment-6641 We have absolutely no idea what goes on in the so-called name of peace, do we? My father called on Sunday. I ignored the call just as I had ignored the fact that it was Father's Day. What about using those temporary, wash in/wash out colours in your hair? They last about six washes and, from my experience, (many years ago using the Harmony ones in the triangular boxes which I'm not sure you can still get here in the UK never mind the States), they gave great colour and made my hair really shiny. Not sure how well they work if you've already coloured your hair tho'. It might even out any roots that are showing. I'd go for a shorter, sharper cut if I were you and I have NO IDEA what your hair looks like at the moment but a sharp cut can frame the face really well. The only thing is, it'll need trimming regularly. We have absolutely no idea what goes on in the so-called name of peace, do we?
My father called on Sunday. I ignored the call just as I had ignored the fact that it was Father’s Day.
What about using those temporary, wash in/wash out colours in your hair? They last about six washes and, from my experience, (many years ago using the Harmony ones in the triangular boxes which I’m not sure you can still get here in the UK never mind the States), they gave great colour and made my hair really shiny. Not sure how well they work if you’ve already coloured your hair tho’. It might even out any roots that are showing. I’d go for a shorter, sharper cut if I were you and I have NO IDEA what your hair looks like at the moment but a sharp cut can frame the face really well. The only thing is, it’ll need trimming regularly.

]]> By: Jean http://www.livedtotell.com/2008/06/16/its-too-late-for-prevention-but-i-dont-think-its-too-late-for-the-cure/#comment-6640 Jean Tue, 17 Jun 2008 13:46:35 +0000 http://www.livedtotell.com/2008/06/16/its-too-late-for-prevention-but-i-dont-think-its-too-late-for-the-cure/#comment-6640 I have some of that same damage to my psyche - the kind that makes me want to curl up into a fetal position, or run like the wind in the opposite direction when there is male anger/violence that I can in any way project on myself. I was abused by someone I loved (not my father - that would be much worse - I PICKED this person, for gawds sake). Just when I think I'm over it, when it hasn't surfaced for a long time, something will happen and I am instantly transported back to that last awful time. I HATE IT! And I can't seem to control it. My brother was a medic in the infantry in Viet Nam. He is a lost person, the Crazy has him firmly in it's grasp. Are the guys you work with recent vets? Thinking of you........ I have some of that same damage to my psyche - the kind that makes me want to curl up into a fetal position, or run like the wind in the opposite direction when there is male anger/violence that I can in any way project on myself. I was abused by someone I loved (not my father - that would be much worse - I PICKED this person, for gawds sake).

Just when I think I’m over it, when it hasn’t surfaced for a long time, something will happen and I am instantly transported back to that last awful time. I HATE IT! And I can’t seem to control it.

My brother was a medic in the infantry in Viet Nam. He is a lost person, the Crazy has him firmly in it’s grasp. Are the guys you work with recent vets?

Thinking of you……..

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